“Mental” Health

Recently, I had a conversation with my mother about various things going on.. the upcoming holiday, my sisters recent troubles, the kids growing up.. when I causally mentioned that I had unfriended my brother on Facebook. I brought it up to feel out the situation and find out what she had heard from him. I found out several things I didn’t know, the most important being that he was, yet again, off his “meds”.

My brother takes lithium. He is bipolar. Mom explained how she wasn’t sure what he was doing right then because she and dad had “had enough” and “cut him off.” This sounds harsh…Sadly, I could empathize with her feelings.

He had spent years draining their savings and patience. Cycling through manic and depressed states. Drugs, running away, stealing their credit cards, jail, legal fees, procreation, joblessness, treatment, denial…. the endless loop was exhausting.

This time he was kicked out of his apartment for fighting, jumped out the car while she was driving, and ran across the highway. He was almost hit by cars. The baby was in the backseat. She didn’t know what to do so she went home. Later he called the house screaming he was going to have her arrested for kidnapping. He was in a full blown manic state and refusing to get help. Denied that he needed help.

It couldn’t be easy for him either. I know that. It’s an illness that blinds you from your pain and the pain you are causing. Blinds you to consequences and repercussions. You’re drowning and can’t care. She wants to help him. She’s tried. No ones perfect, and effort only lasts as long as the energy you have does. He’s struggling… She doesn’t know what to do. No one does.



Worst Blogger Ever

I am aware that this title quite possibly belongs to me.

I’m not very consistent and the content is all over the place. There. I said it. now you don’t have to. I am also aware that my posts contain grammatical errors. I’m human. annnd I don’t know grammar as well as I would like too. I’m working on it.

There is a strange dilemma that strikes me… I have all these fabulous ideas for posts! I even have them mostly scripted in my head. When I sit down to write, however, it all disappears. Poof. Gone. I’m left with the shell, if that, and no idea what creature lived there before.

Any solutions? Please share.


Most of us have it. Most of us love it in some form or another. One thing that I have really noticed though is how hair can truly be the thing that highlights the differences between people. Even people who are the same race, religion, or family. It is also the thing that can pull people together. People who, under any other circumstance, would never have met or spoken.

First, you have the hair itself.

 Gaining, losing.  Curly, straight, wavy, somewhere in between. Thin, thick, a lot, a little, or, again, somewhere in between. 

Then, you have how you care for your hair.

Do you brush? what kind of comb do you use? Shampoo? or no? The “no poo” thing is pretty interesting. do you condition? Do you wash it daily or a few times a week?

Finally, how you style your hair.

Natural, dyed, straightened, curled.

There are even sub categories.

For instance, if you dye it.. what color? A natural one? or do you go with funky colors? Highlights, tips, clumps, or the whole head? Solid colors? Or ombre? Maybe oil slick?

Do you let it grow? Is it short? Razored, layered, flat or angled?

Or, you could shave it all off and buy a bunch of wigs. A new do for every day!





It’s just your average internet troll

It never fails. You’re online reading the comment thread of some article when boom! an internet troll strikes. They always have some snarky, ugly, negative comment about whatever you were just reading. some people respond with various defenses or go away commentary. Most people read the comments and move on.

The problem is this…

Does it seem to you, as it does to me, that the trolls have become more vocal? Less fearless in their trolling? More numerous, maybe? I don’t just mean on the internet either!

I’ve read, and even agreed with, the thought that “It’s the internet, of course there are trolls” ideology. However, one must consider the “we are our friends” theory.

This is the theory that we adapt ourselves to be more like those we hang out with. If your friends are lying, cheating, alcoholics then you too will become a lying, cheating, alcoholic. If your friends are charity giving, gospel saying, pillars of the community etc..  This theory isn’t 100% foolproof, there are always anomalies, but is accurate enough to have weight.

So with this theory in mind I wonder if the growth of the troll community could be directly attributed to the fact that many people read their comments All. The .Time. Whether those people started out as trolls or not… did they become trolls due to the exposure to preexisting trolls? Or are the trolls merely more comfortable speaking out because it has, apparently, become the norm to do so publicly? (see: any Republican debate this year, or reality television)

The online medium has always facilitated an easier way to speak up for those who struggle to do so publicly. Has the erosion of polite barriers enabled trolling clubs to expand membership? Or is it that the “polite” online community is speaking less? Either way it has become an out of control problem. More and more people look to the past and long for the classiness that is missing today. We are surrounded by too much junk… be it food, television, literature, or debates.

I might be sliding off topic….

The purpose of this post was to wonder, question, and discuss how long one should turn away from such horrible and negative commentary. Should the positive be articulated better? Should the trolls be “shot down,” so to speak. Would it do any good? And if not, then how does one suggest going about re-energizing the country with positivity, class, politeness, and empathy?  How do we move forward instead of back? How are we Still a country that struggles to accept differences?